Reality vs. Fantasy:
You’re Not the Only One:
10 Top Tips To Make Holidays More Satisfying & Fun:
This is my #1 tip to help you stop feeling sorry for yourself. Giving back is the most empowering feeling, and the best way to truly embrace the spirit of the season. There are volunteer opportunities everywhere. You can Google volunteer opportunities + (your location) online and work with a reputable, organized group. Or, visit your local church or community center and they’ll help match you with volunteer activities that suit your interests and availability. One traditional way to bring cheer during the holidays is to help deliver meals to the seniors, shut-ins, and those who can’t afford a holiday feast on their own. The love and gratitude you will experience will keep you warm all season long, and put your own situation in better perspective. You’ll be with other loving, caring people keeping busy so the time speeds by. Get started now, and you might be ringing in the New Year with a potential new love, or with newfound friends!
Create A Happy Environment:
Happy things to look at really do a lot to make you feel good. If you like holiday decorations, put them up, even if it is “just you.” Play holiday music on your iPod while you’re power walking or working out at the gym (exercise is a great way to feel great). If your office allows for it, add some seasonal touches to your desk. Hang your holiday cards on a string where you can see the, — you can’t help but feel appreciated when you see all those cards! People have been thinking of you, even if they aren’t currently nearby. If you’re really hot into “holiday” buy a new plant or some colorful flowers, or a scented candle, to brighten up your space.
Party In Your Own Place:
If you’re alone on the actual holiday, all the more reason to host a party in your own place before everyone leaves for Christmas, New Years, etc. Take plenty of photos and put them on your computer or phone. Look at them if you’re feeling a bit lonely and realize that the holidays are just a small part of the year. You’ll be united with friends and family again!
Celebrate Loved Ones Who Have Passed:
Good memories are the way we keep loved ones who have passed on, alive. If you start to feel sad that someone you love has passed on and won’t be with you this holiday season, quickly switch the sadness to a happy thought about them. They don’t want you to cry and be sad, they want you to remember all the things that you know are so wonderful about them, and the fun times you had. Try substituting glad for sad memories. You won’t be able to help but smile. Your loved ones will live forever, as long as you remember them in happy memories!
One sure way to put your mind at ease is to keep it busy with something fun and interesting. If you are at home, cook something! The smell of fresh bread or cookies, or a holiday cake, or fragrant soup will pass the time and give you something delicious to enjoy. If cooking isn’t your thing, stock up on foods you enjoy. You don’t have to eat Turkey or a Roast just because “Mom” always made it. If you feel like vegetable curry or chicken noodle soup…go for it! If you are away from home, try working on a puzzle or knitting, or anything that takes hours to complete. The day will pass much more quickly.
Meet To Eat:
Everyone has to eat, sometimes. So make holiday meals a social occasion. Consider joining or hosting an ‘eating & meeting” party where everyone who is alone brings someone else to lunch, brunch, or dinner. You will all know at least one person and you’ll meet new people. This is a fun way to get together every week or month as well as at the holidays. Even if the idea of “singles events” make your knees weak, consider a singles-only event at holiday time. You don’t even have to be looking for a romantic partner to share in the holiday spirit with others who want to share the day with others. These events offer companionship, conversation, and (if you are seeking romance), you just find a new love. If nothing else, everyone there is in the same boat…and grateful for your company.
Whatever you do, don’t leave plans for the last minute and then wonder what you’re going to do to make the time fly by. Definite plans ahead of time are comforting and empowering. If you don’t want to get out (or you can’t get out), be sure to pre-arrange calls with family and friends..it will give you (and them) something to look forward to. At the very least, pick up movies that inspire you or make you laugh. “It’s a Wonderful Life” and “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” and “Sleepless in Seattle” are my personal, pick-me-up, holiday favorites.
Computers and smartphones keep you constantly connected, so call, text, tweet, Facebook or email. And, there’s always the opportunity to make get on “the net.” No matter where you are in the world, people are online and looking to connect, especially on the holidays. Be Smart & Safe: not everyone is “nice” on the net. Lonely or emotionally upset people are especially vulnerable to predators online, and you can’t know if the strangers on the other side of your computer screen are who they say they are. NEVER reveal personal information or intimate feelings.
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A FINAL BIT OF WISDOM: If you get sad or upset, remember that each day is just 24 hours long — and then it’s over! Sad thoughts feel like they’re here forever, but actually, they are fleeting. For most people simply substituting a bad thought for a happy is an effective way to banish the blues. But if you have a very serious or potentially life-threatening problem, please don’t wait: Call a local hotline or visit a local crisis center in your area. To find help immediately, do an online search (e.g. “crisis hotline”) or check the phone book. I want your new year to start out well, and end, even better!