Many adults approach the holiday season with a mixture of excitement but also dread. The past year has been tough for many people for so many reasons. Perhaps lack of funds, the Pandemic, inability to travel, stressed relationships, career issues, and more are dimming your “holiday spirit.” I hope this updated version of How to Handle the Holidays Without So Much Stress, will help.
If you’re still worrying about Covid and trying to avoid people, holiday gatherings and parties are a no-go. Since travel is also restricted, it might be disappointing not to attend the large annual family gathering at “grandma’s house.” Considering that many if not most family gatherings are the cause of conflict, maybe this is not the worst thing that can happen. After all, the tiffs over whose house to go to and whether or not it is still viable to afford all those holiday gifts for the entire family are lessened if not eliminated.
Do you have that FOMO (fear of missing out) feeling? You are not alone. We see all these photos on social media showing bunches of “fun-loving” people at super-chic gatherings. These images might make you wonder why your world isn’t so fabulous.
Keep in mind that plenty of these soirees are “on command” invitations. The actual parties are so boring you’d rather be home eating take-out with your dog (or cat, or budgie). Consider yourself lucky if you can have some fun time with people you love, even if you’re just eating dip and chips. Just remember, all that faux “joy” is just for the cameras.
And as to the office party. It’s never really “fun.” You’re projecting an image of your best self if you’re smart. Which means, no carousing and drinking. In fact, an office party is actually work (Read: Oh crap! I drank too much at the office party last night.
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Seriously, we can also do our part for the planet by ditching the complicated wraps and bows. They are just going to be thrown out anyway.
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If you truly feel sad, keep in mind that all holidays are just a small part of the year. Most last just 24 hours and then they’re over.
But having definite plans is comforting and empowering. If you are alone, pre-arrange calls times (or zoom/Facetime etc.) with family and friends. This will give them, and you, something to look forward to.
Caution! Don’t reach out on the internet in a public way if you are upset. Sadly, there are predators and scammers and emotionally upset people are especially vulnerable. If you are in some sort of public forum (e.g. Clubhouse) don’t reveal personal information or intimate feelings.
Promise yourself that next year things will be different. If you can think it you can say it, and if you say it you can do it…and you will!