I decided I needed motivation to get in better shape (a good thing), so I hired a personal trainer (more on this as I hopefully, make some progress).
Carl Ditmars is from San Francisco. He’s been traveling around the country, training all types of people (and some celebs) and hopes to write a book. We met on Craigs List, actually (a great resource)! and he came by my apartment to see layout. When he spied a shelf of my family photos, he mentioned the color photo right in front. It is of me, taken in 1999.
“Nice, photo,” he said. “Is this your daughter?”
My jaw flapped open. I was momentarily, speechless. “No,” I slowly and as calmy as I could, replied. “That is me, in 1999.”
He didn’t really know what to say, and neither did I.
When Carl left, I pondered the photo. I considered then, and now. In 199, my first book, Recruiting Love, Using the Business Skills You Have To Find The Love You Want, that I had co-authored with my twin sister (“Advice Sister Jessica”) had just been published. Our world was full of excitement.
The joy didn’t last long.
Soon after Recruiting Love hit the bookstores, I had a personal health crisis, endured the grief of having my twin sister (and co-author) drop dead without warning, followed soon after by my favorite cousin Hilary J. Bader, who wrote scripts for Star Trek, Zena, and won an Emmy (or two) for Batman. My beloved 19 1/2 year old cat died. My father collapsed, near death and it took months before he recovered enough for me to realize that I had to find a suitable facility for him to live in, while I was also clearing out and selling our family’s home (we lived there for nearly 80 years and no one had ever thrown out a piece of paper!). I had to take over his life as I was wondering how to pick up the remants of my own.
Had I really changed so much since just 1999? I guess I have. Even a life & career expert has challenges and not all of them are easy to endure. The years since 1999 have been tough ones, but I’ve managed to handle them. And, I really do NOT think I look that bad!